Love Magic vs. Sex Magic

Does the difference in spelling "magic" mean anything? No, but some people like to pretend that the variations on the archaic spelling are somehow more meaningful, or powerful (and to lend mystique) and also gives the illusion of being more esoterically pure. This is frankly bullshit. Magic is magic.

So what's the difference? Easy. There's love, and there's sex. Love is an emotion that guides intent and sex is a physical function that guides desire. Love, in its pure earthly (carnal) nature is best expressed through love-making, whereas sex without love is a pathetic attempt to create the illusion of love and meaning.

There is a popular fad at the moment regarding "Tantric Sex", the upshot is using sex to create magic. The idea is that through sex, people can use the energies created through the act of procreation to create something holistically (as an extrapolation) and as a short-cut to taking responsibility for their own actions and creations.

Technically this idea is valid, in a mechanical, esoteric sense, except that what is created usually serves no divine purpose, and is usually an out picturing of the selfish desires of the people who participate in this. Therefore in a Humanitarian sense, Tantric Sex is almost a complete contradiction of the divine plan and the Holy Source of Light and Wisdom. Tantric sex, to use sex to create Love and Light  just doesn't work, it is a mockery of the sanctity of two people wholly in love.

The magic that is created through two people who love each other and who make love as an expression of that love, create something that goes beyond dimensions. They create a pure and Divine energy that can be tapped on by hundreds of entities, human or otherwise. If the love those two humans feel for each other is fairly strong and pure, those energies can only be used for divine Intent, as the love itself is divine. Unlike Tantric Sex, the energy created through true love-making can not be used or perverted by the Dark Forces. The Dark Forces simply cannot access the planes of awareness at which that love energy gravitates.

Those who subscribe to "Love Magic" theories in their own interphysical relationships are not tapping into their higher dimensions of expression. They are using shortcuts (much as some people use drugs or other chemicals) to "cheat" to reach other planes of existence, even though they cannot sustain those plateau's of awareness or understanding (outside of the bedroom.) They become addicted to the "process"  and feel that their only way to connect with the higher planes is through those artificial creations.

Tantric Sex is a nice theory, but it doesn't wash. The "ideals" are interesting, but the reality is that people who participate in this are truly starved for love and affection. This is not the worst of it however. Those who turn to Tantric Sex are in effect admitting to their own starvation for love and affection. They are also admitting their own inability to give or receive love or affection in a free, healthy and committed way. Perhaps through ignorance, perhaps through continued deprivation, but this expression continues the cycle and because the "love principle" is not present or clear, such relationships are doomed to failure.

Tantric Sex is a Science, it excludes Art and it excludes divinity. Love, and love-making, could be reduced to a science In a sense, but that would exclude the art and the divine. However there will come a day, I'm sure, when the "Anatomy of Lovers" is diagrammed and diagnosed and I only hope I am somewhere far, far away when that happens and that I'm deeply in love, where no one can find me and put me under a microscope.

Love-making, on the other hand, is truly cause for a galactic cataclysm. Two people aligned within their divinity can express the greatest power of magic of all time, the power of love. People who are truly in love are not afraid. They give and receive love and affection equally and without fear. Consciously or otherwise, they tap into the power of the divine, and know that their love and that expression is shared through many dimensions.

The door of true love is opened by affection. Affection, a non-sexual expression of warmth, regard and human contact, is an essential ingredient to good love. In our society, affection has been greatly neutralised as "impractical, non-effective and as either a waste of time or a shortcut to the bedroom" and has therefore been almost obliterated from the equation of love.

Love-making is not (or should not be) confined to what a friend of mine called "yink yink yink". Affection in bed or out is the physical demonstration of love for a person superseding "parts" or anatomy. Love-making in its proper form is a complete and total embrasure of the partner and is done with love, regard and respect for the "All" that a person is. Affection for another person should be non-manipulative and non-coercive. Affection and love should not be a "bargaining-process" between two people. Love and affection should be given freely and with a personal commitment to see things through. Affection is the mortar between the bricks, essential if you want to keep your house from falling down.

True love begins with the self. One who cannot truly love one's own self cannot even begin to understand the truth of loving another human being. Personal self-esteem lies at the foundation of any loving relationship. A person who does not love himself, does not know who they are and are therefore living a lie, in a sense. That person can only commit to the extent that their fragmented self will allow it.

This does not mean sitting around believing that one is perfect or that character flaws are acceptable or to be encouraged as a sign of "uniqueness." If the human heart is aligned, there is no flaw and it then becomes a matter of resonance between two people. Two people in love will find harmony, if they believe in themselves and the world they create.