Love Spells

 

To use Magick to cause a particular person to fall in love with you is manipulative and is a violation of the Wiccan Rede. Anyone who has crossed that line can probably tell you of their experiences... Most of them do not end very happily. Your loved one may become madly obsessive over you or the relationship may decay for there was never any common basis for it in the first place. Your loved one may even be taken away from you by another's "Magick". These scenarios are examples of the Threefold Law in action and none of them are worth the pain which they may cause.

So, what can you use love Magick for?

Well, you can use it to give yourself a fighting chance with someone you like, or you can draw that special someone whom you have never met but have been waiting for all of your life. A wonderful spell for drawing love to you is the Love Cord Spell. First of all, you need to select a colour or colours for your cord...

 

Red

Passionate, physical, lusty love

Orange

Basic attraction, somewhat lusty

Yellow

Intellectual love, based on shared interests and communication

Emerald Green

Marriage and family love, monogamous partners

Blue

Dreamy, sensual, reckless love

Violet

Relationship based more on imaged qualities rather than on reality

Gold

A protective love, somewhat possessive

Silver

A neurotic love, very possessive, weak, clingy partners

Pink

Sweet, flowery, romantic love

Black

A turbulent relationship with many hidden aspects

White

Chase, un-passionate, but very faithful love

Brown

Not used for love magick

 

You can weave together several cords into one to get a balance of all the qualities you wish to attract. While weaving your cord, invoke a deity (such as Aphrodite, Diarmuid, or Fand) into the cord. Wear the cord next to your skin (necklace, bracelet, ankle bracelet, etc.) When you are in the presence of someone whom you wish to attract or in an area in which you feel you may meet someone you'd like to attract, allow yourself to absorb the deity's energy from the cord. See and feel yourself as being very attractive and desirable. Once you meet your loved one, the rest is up to the both of you ...

There is no more universal desire in all of us than the desire to have that "special someone" with whom we can share our hearts and our lives. Being in love is a wonderful feeling and when we don't have a relationship in our lives, many of us can become lonely and depressed.. It is not surprising to me, that one of the most common questions I receive is "Do you have a spell I can use to make a particular person fall in love with me?"

The answer to this question is not an easy one for me. On the one hand, yes, I do have many different spells one can use to make someone fall in love with them. But on the other hand, no, I will not give them one of these spells.

So why would I be so selfish and unkind as to not share this information freely with all who ask? Because of a little "clause" in the Witches' Rede which says "harm none". Harm none means just that not yourself, not your enemies "NONE". the definition of harm in accordance with The Wiccan Rede includes physical, emotional, mental, spiritual, and psychic damage. Manipulation of others (such as forcing someone to fall in love with you) would be harmful, and therefore taboo.

Sure, there are many books out there containing information on how to make someone fall in love with you. Yes, there are some who practice these spells. Sometimes they even work! But at what price? According to the late Scott Cunningham in his book The Truth About Witchcraft Today, "Practitioners of negative magick burn themselves out". As we've seen, the projection of personal energy in magick is an expenditure of the life-force within. Once a magician has wreaked metaphysical havoc, there's no turning back, the current is closed. In programming personal energy with negativity, the magician infuses her/himself with negative power by unlocking it within, which paves the way for a life of darkness and, eventually, an early grave. Evil magicians destroy themselves with their own curses.

Most magicians, including myself, accept the concept of the "Rule of Three" which states that magical actions are returned in triple strength to the power wielder. Performing a ritual intended to harm another person, something even as innocuous as a love spell to make someone love you, guarantees that you will receive the same back times three. Possibly the one you love will learn of your manipulation and despise you. Or perhaps he or she will be taken away through the magick of another. I have even heard of a case where the recipient of the "love spell" became so obsessive and jealous of the one who performed the spell that he wound up killing her. Now this is obviously an extreme case, but is it worth taking the chance? Also, if you think about it for a moment, how much satisfaction could you possibly expect to obtain from a relationship in which you are forcing someone to love you? How much more joy you could have by finding someone you love and who freely and truly loves you!

So are there any love spells you can perform? Yes!!! As long as you do not have a particular person in mind, you can work a love spell to draw love to you. In the meantime, if you feel you can't go on for another day without a love in your life, you may wish to "work the magick" of the following spell, written by Scott Cunningham:

 

Petals Of Love

Only two magical tools are required for this ritual: a small mirror and fresh flowers. They can be daisies, carnations, violets, lilacs or gardenias, but roses of any colour are best. If you do use roses, remove the thorns from one of the stems.

Buy or collect seven or eight stems of the chosen flower. If cutting them yourself, thank the plant for its sacrifice in any words or actions that you see fit. Remember nature is a power source. Magicians respect it.

Perform this ritual when you are quite alone and won't be interrupted. Take the phone off the hook, don't answer the door give this time to yourself.

You may be dressed in normal clothes, those you sleep in or nothing at all. Do whatever feels most natural.

Place the flowers in a large vase or bowl. Nearby place a small mirror in a position so that you can see your face within it. Sit or kneel comfortably before the flowers. Remove one flower from the vase. Stroke it over your head, your hair, your ears. Move it up and down your cheeks and chin. As you do this, open yourself to the loving energies the flower is radiating out to you. Close your eyes and brush their lids lightly with the flower. Say these words:

I see love.

Move the flower lower. Smell its rich scent. Drink in its aroma. Let it fill your soul. Say...

I breathe love.

Open your eyes. Move the flower away from your head and above it. Say...

I hold love.

Lower the flower to your heart area. Stroke it up and down, soothing it, letting its energies melt into yours. Say...

I feel love.

Move it down to your stomach. Press it gently against your skin or clothing. Say...

I nourish love.

Still holding the flower in your hand before you, gaze at your reflection in the mirror. Say these or similar words...

Love is before me. Love is behind me. Love is beside me. Love is above me. Love is below me. Love is within me. Love flows from me. Love comes to me. I am loved.

Place the flowers in a spot where you'll see them several times a day. If possible, wear or carry the flower you've used in your ritual. When it begins to wilt, bury it in the Earth thanking it for its energies.

And be prepared to receive as well as to give love.

 

First off, I started thinking about what "non-spell" type things we do when we are trying to win the affections of another. We wear perfume, we take extra time with our hair and makeup, we agonize in front of our closets for hours to find "just the right outfit". We spend a lot of money on our dates. We send flowers, we buy gifts, and on and on and on... Are these in themselves not subtle (or sometimes not so subtle) forms of manipulation? Probably so... So taken one step further, what would be so wrong with throwing in a little incense and herbs, some oil and a crystal, a candle and a little visualization to get the attention of the one we desire? Probably nothing...but it depends...

Say there's a new guy at work. You noticed him the first day he started working at your office. You asked around and found out that he wasn't married. In fact, he wasn't even seeing anyone. You tried to arrange bumping into him in the break room, you walked the long way to the copy machine so you could pass by his desk, you smiled at him, tried to strike up a conversation with him...he is always polite and friendly to you, but that's about it. He's engrossed in learning his new job and looking good to his new boss... he'll never notice you the way you want to be noticed!

So you go home, pull out a pink candle (jumbo size) and anoint it with Love Oil (full-moon blessed, of course!) Next you throw in a rose quartz and a handful of jasmine flowers. You place the picture (you know, the one you cut out of the company newsletter) on your altar, and light a stick of Love-Me-Now incense while chanting the following spell..

I love you, now you love me, In love forever we will be....

 

Anything ethically wrong with this? Probably not... it will definitely get him to notice you, probably even ask you out. From there you are on your own... This spell WON'T make him fall in love with you forever, though, you'll have to earn that on your own. But aside from being horribly corny, I don't think there's anything wrong with it, even though a particular person was mentioned.

So what if you date this guy for a couple of months and then he decides for whatever reason that he wants to move on and see other people...The relationship is just not working out for him. Anything wrong with doing another spell to keep him? I think so... This is where the unethical control and manipulation factors come into play. It's one thing to get a guy to notice you and ask you out. It's another to force him through love magick to stay with you forever if he doesn't want to...

Laurie Cabot, in her wonderful book entitled "Love Magic" has the following to say about manipulation and love magick...

"Manipulating another person by means of a spell sparks serious discussion among responsible Witches concerned about the ethical use of power. There has been so much anti-Witch propaganda over the centuries centering around the image of the "evil" Witch who hexes and causes harm, that modern Witches take very seriously their responsibility to use their power for the good of all and to harm none. Central to these discussions that appear in pagan publications and symposiums is the issue of manipulation. To what extent do spells manipulate others? Is it ethical to manipulate another human being, even for that person's own good? Can we ever really know what is in the best interest of another? Is it even possible to manipulate or control another against that person's wishes? There are no easy answers to these questions and each can evoke different answers depending on the context in which it is asked. If a spell or potion is created with the intention that it be "for the good of all" and "to harm no one," then it WILL NOT be an unethical use of power."

I'll leave you with a recipe for Love Oil that works like a charm...

On the night of the first Friday after the New Moon, light a pink taper candle and set out a pink or red rose in a vase on your working area. In a glass container, blend the following ingredients...

2 ounces Carrier Oil (I like either Apricot Kernel or Sweet Almond) 3 Pink Rose Buds (for love) 1 large pinch dried Lavender (for harmony and happiness) 1 small handful Red Rose Petals (for attraction) 1 large pinch Jasmine Flowers (for "spice" - if you know what I mean :-)) and 1 rose quartz gem-stone

(If you desire added scent, you can add equal quantities of rose, jasmine and lavender essential oils (about 6-7 drops of each should be just right...)

While blending these ingredients together, visualize the qualities you desire in your love. Next, charm your oil by chanting the following:

Herbs of love, herbs of light Bring my lover now to sight

Place the container out into the light of the New Moon and retrieve it again in the morning. Remove the rose quartz and carry with you as a love attraction charm. Strain the herbs out of the blend with a cheesecloth, bottle your oil, and wear daily to draw love to you.

 

 

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